write because you’ve got something to say

it’s been quite a long time since i have last posted something around here. i didn’t quit! it was just an end of university year with many exams and a successful BA diploma in pastoral theology for me. and that took from me a lot of time.

i haven’t published, that’s true, but i was constantly thinking in the past two months on why do i write for and what do i write for. of course i know why i write! (see that down below). well, the result of this reevaluating of my purpose is that i decided to start in the future a hungarian version of this blog. i will translate most of the posts that i already wrote and will constantly do that from now on. so, my hungarian speaking fellows: from now on you don’t have to complain, that you don’t understand what’s happening! magyar flag


why do i write? 

when i started thinking about launching this blog, i bought myself a notebook (paper, not digital) and i bought it in order to write down my ideas and plans. but i bought one particular notebook, with the following very inspiring quote on the cover:

you don’t write because you want to say something. you write because you’ve got something to say.

now, as i think back to the moment i have bought this copy-book for my notes, i know that was a short, but substantial moment.


you’ve got something to say:

i have to start with being selfish. writing for me means to know myself better. that’s why i write a self coaching blog. it’s a way of expressing myself. sometimes it’s good to write out the things you have deep inside – for that you need a journal. writing on the blogosphere teaches me to control myself, my words and my thoughts. readers give a good feed-back (if they like-follow-comment-share etc).
but i never exclude the possibility that readers can benefit from my selfish experiment. everyone is free to learn from what i write.

share yourself with everyone

some can work more on finding a topic to write about, than what it takes to actually write a post. it can be a nice experiment to try to find the topic that most people are interested in. if the topic is good, the readers will come.
i see it the other way around. what i write about it’s already present, i have dreams, experiences, i see things, read, think on the things i experience. i don’t search for a topic because i need to write something, anything. i’ve got something to say and that’s what i’ll write about. it’s up to the readers how will the articles are received.

write because you’ve got something to say

you need to know your audience – they say. and that’s true. when you start a page, you have to take in consideration that the content you are posting will be read by one type of audience. so if you want to reach as many readers as you can, you have to write in such a way, that a wide range of people become interested in your articles.
now, for me, that’s not enough. i don’t want to trap in people in to my blog. i care about those who visit my blog and read my content. i keep an eye on those who are interested.
74% of those who visit my blog are native hungarian speakers. i can’t leave this vital information out. so, by taking the blog to a new level and providing a hungarian version, i want to show my readers that i care about them.
for those who don’t speak hungarian, relax: i know what topics you prefer and will continue writing on that, plus + i am happy to answer all you questions and be a friend when needed.

take care of your audience


so the process starts with me, an egoistic attempt to express myself and to improve. but in this process i hope to see the needs of others.
i hope i can be useful for others too. 

to limit by offering more – or facebook likebuttons

one of the most effective ways to limit people, is to give them more opportunities. it’s called manipulation.

show people some more possibilities of what or how they can do things by pointing out a wider palette of solutions. good, now convince them to use your methods, persuade them to use your terms, act according your suggestions, live with the offered opportunities. you are manipulating them.

of course, you might find out that the word to manipulate has not only a notorious meaning, but also a positive one. to manipulate means to handle or control the situation, mechanism, information or a tool. it also means to influence – which you can do it in a positive and negative way too.

let’s take a positive example. your child plays for two years an instrument hard to learn like for example French horn, piano or violin (according to toptens these are the three hardest instruments to learn). you see that he is struggling. the instrument teacher told you that your child won’t make a career from this, for sure. you don’t want to demotivate your child. but what can you do? you try to convince him or her to choose something else and offer him some ideas: an instrument that is easier to learn, sports, arts and so on. you evacuate your child out of a disastrous career and offer him something pleasant as a hobby. you did not destroyed the childhood of your beloved son or daughter. positive pedagogy, positive manipulation.

now, how do we arrive at #facebook and the new likebuttons? through the negative manipulation example.
you promised openness, but give them under table limitation. – that’s how i see it.


until now you had the opportunity to like and share things, or to don’t provide others with information about what you surfed on social media. now things have changed. facebook doesn’t want you to be silent. facebook wants you to say your opinion. just in order to encourage you, it gives you five more opportunities to express yourself. now that’s! i say manipulative in a negative sense. until now you were happy to like something and decide what does it mean for you, but now you also have to decide the way you want to like a thing (you like-love, like-haha, like-sad, like-wow or like-angry).

i mean that’s really nice, makes your facebook and social life far more interesting and colorful. but what if i want to like-applause, like-jump.out.of.the.window ?!

the point is not to get influenced and carried away to do things social media suggests you. why would you allow facebook or any means of media to limit your emotions?

Paul Borget: people should live the way they are thinking, otherwise they will get to think the way they are acting/living. now, replace living with feeling.
on facebook, with this limitation of emotions, you just won’t be able!


(thank you K.M. for the quote. thank you Tárki.)