write because you’ve got something to say

it’s been quite a long time since i have last posted something around here. i didn’t quit! it was just an end of university year with many exams and a successful BA diploma in pastoral theology for me. and that took from me a lot of time.

i haven’t published, that’s true, but i was constantly thinking in the past two months on why do i write for and what do i write for. of course i know why i write! (see that down below). well, the result of this reevaluating of my purpose is that i decided to start in the future a hungarian version of this blog. i will translate most of the posts that i already wrote and will constantly do that from now on. so, my hungarian speaking fellows: from now on you don’t have to complain, that you don’t understand what’s happening! magyar flag

 

why do i write? 

when i started thinking about launching this blog, i bought myself a notebook (paper, not digital) and i bought it in order to write down my ideas and plans. but i bought one particular notebook, with the following very inspiring quote on the cover:

you don’t write because you want to say something. you write because you’ve got something to say.

now, as i think back to the moment i have bought this copy-book for my notes, i know that was a short, but substantial moment.

 

you’ve got something to say:

self-knowledge
i have to start with being selfish. writing for me means to know myself better. that’s why i write a self coaching blog. it’s a way of expressing myself. sometimes it’s good to write out the things you have deep inside – for that you need a journal. writing on the blogosphere teaches me to control myself, my words and my thoughts. readers give a good feed-back (if they like-follow-comment-share etc).
but i never exclude the possibility that readers can benefit from my selfish experiment. everyone is free to learn from what i write.

share yourself with everyone

knowledge
some can work more on finding a topic to write about, than what it takes to actually write a post. it can be a nice experiment to try to find the topic that most people are interested in. if the topic is good, the readers will come.
i see it the other way around. what i write about it’s already present, i have dreams, experiences, i see things, read, think on the things i experience. i don’t search for a topic because i need to write something, anything. i’ve got something to say and that’s what i’ll write about. it’s up to the readers how will the articles are received.

write because you’ve got something to say

providence
you need to know your audience – they say. and that’s true. when you start a page, you have to take in consideration that the content you are posting will be read by one type of audience. so if you want to reach as many readers as you can, you have to write in such a way, that a wide range of people become interested in your articles.
now, for me, that’s not enough. i don’t want to trap in people in to my blog. i care about those who visit my blog and read my content. i keep an eye on those who are interested.
74% of those who visit my blog are native hungarian speakers. i can’t leave this vital information out. so, by taking the blog to a new level and providing a hungarian version, i want to show my readers that i care about them.
for those who don’t speak hungarian, relax: i know what topics you prefer and will continue writing on that, plus + i am happy to answer all you questions and be a friend when needed.

take care of your audience

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so the process starts with me, an egoistic attempt to express myself and to improve. but in this process i hope to see the needs of others.
i hope i can be useful for others too. 

mission-thinking

it is very healthy to take some time for yourself in order to evaluate your past, take a deep look at your current situation and plan for the future. this kind of  evaluation is important, because it can help you to know where you belong. many people just live with the flux of everyday questions. when you stopped evaluating your role in the society, your position in your work career, your aim for the future, i think you might be close to a burnout or you activated the autopilot mode in your life. things just happen, you just live from one day to the other. doing new things can easily insecure you, having new acquaintances unease you, dreaming of better and focusing on improvement  are missing.

what can help you getting over this phase in your life, you might ask? i propose you a small exercise, if you are willing to give a try. i named it mission-thinking.

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of course, those who know how much interested i am in theological studies, might think that now i want to make a point on some Christian techniques or a sort of convertion. well, they are wrong -maybe-
we live a time of almost total secularization of the word mission. you go to army and you are sent out to the field-work, you already have a mission to complete. or, you work in business, you have to know the mission statement of your company. the word mission has been dechristianised during the years. but the meaning and context we use this word in is the same: you have an aim, you want to reach a goal, you are willing to fight for something- you have a mission, or a vision (the way i called this in a prior blog post).

 

so, here’s my suggestion and the theoretical background of my mission-thinking conception:

when you think about the things you are doing, or you would like to do, try to see them as missions. you should reevaluate the most important aspects and parts of your life. in which things do you see a mission?
– what you learn will be only an income source, or it’s also something you really want to live for?
– your role in the society, as a volunteer, member of an organisation, church member or simply as neighbour is the way you really want to add to your fellow-beings?
– is your hobby meaningful enough to make you feel you are actively doing something, or it is just a way you say goodbye to the world and become lonesome?
if you really think what you are doing is more than getting over the everyday tasks, you need to say it’s not only a must-do thing, but it is your mission. i think this phrasing is more powerful than having a goal, reaching an aim…

so, take some time reassess things and say it out loud what is your mission.

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identity

the impacts of some experiences from the past week lead me to think more about questions related to identity. not only in general, where do i belong, what’s my role on this planet, who am i as mother/father/employee, but more in an ontological? way.

„perhaps it’s impossible to wear an identity without becoming what you pretend to be” Orson Scott Card

we are born with a so called blank paper knowledge, tabula rasa. all we do our whole life is to fill in this white sheet with information, experiences, feelings and behavior. we are constantly changing. right from the moment of conception – before we even see the light of this world, and up to the moment we stop seeing the light of this world – after we die, we still change.

in between the two periphery we constantly develop, change, shape. The 4 years old naive boy i used to be is not anymore the same with the 16 years old rebellious teenager, and will never be the same with the 30+ years old men. who am i, who is the authentic self?

following my blog post on burn-out someone asked me on linkedIn the following:

You imply that you or I are currently your inauthentic self, otherwise you wouldn’t highlight the need to move toward your authentic self. This also means that you must clearly know what your authentic self is to be able to determine that you are actually moving towards it. Without this knowledge, you can’t know that you are for certain journeying towards your authentic self, only that you are seeking and/or experiencing a difference from your current inauthentic self. I was wondering when in the past, or how you came to know your authentic self before starting your journey?

i don’t know if i could give an answer that was required from me at this point. the only thing i know for sure is that i really mean what i wrote as a reply:

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we all arrive to this world not knowing anything, and end our life with knowing how little we know. the attitude that stipulates the whole process is who we really are.